Some work friends and I were recently discussing things that men can not criticize their girlfriends about. It was astounding how incorrect us guys were when trying to lay out our "rights" in terms of constructive criticism. The women in the office were appalled at what we thought we were allowed to talk about. If I could figure out what I am allowed to criticize and what I should stay away from, I'd avoid arguments and do a better job of hitting on girls.

    I'm guilty of saying things to women that only their best girlfriends, gay male friends, and moms/sisters are allowed to say. I put together a list below:

    Weight

    There is no friendly way for a guy to tell a girl that she's put on weight. Even if there was a friendly way, most of the women I've talked to about it said they would not want to hear it from a guy. It seems obvious, but not all guys know this. We polled some of the guys in our office, and the prevailing male opinion was as long as she's your girlfriend, or you've known each other for a while, then you can make weight loss suggestions. I think the best policy is silence. If I"m desperate to make a suggestion, maybe I tell one of her girlfriends to do it on my behalf.

    Outfit

    I think I'm only allowed to say someone generally looks nice, or I like her shirt or whatever. Getting too detailed or negative gets me in trouble. In fact, I attempted to "add on" to a compliment I gave a girl once. I told her she looked great, because she had a new outfit on. Now, remembering those times I saw my sisters or friends bark back "thanks, and just $30 from Target," I tried to double up on my compliment: "and it looks like you didn't pay much money either." She ended up crying. I've been told by women that they dress more to impress other women anyway, and not guys. Basically, I need to stick to "you look great" and leave it there. And I should probably avoid saying I don't like something a girl is wearing. That can only lead to no good.

    Friends/Family

    We've all dated people with annoying friends. But, people consider their friends as extensions of themselves so if you criticize friends, you're criticizing your significant other indirectly. My older sister has a good system of putting the word "that" in front of any of her husband's friends that annoy her. "Oh you're going with that Mike to the concert?" It's not an aggressive attack, just a little poke. Family is the same rule, but you probably get in even more trouble if you criticize the family of a significant other.

    Driving

    Every guy thinks he's a better driver than his girlfriend. I can learn a lot from my little sister's boyfriend. One day, my sister was driving the two of us to Baltimore for a weekend. My sister is a really bad driver. She doesn't brake when she sees brake lights ahead until she absolutely has to. This leads to passenger whiplash and nausea. During this trip I said: "you know, you can brake earlier- that way you're not slamming on the brakes at the last minute and making us all sick." She said: "do I do that?" I turned around to her boyfriend for confirmation and he simply said: "no comment". My sister's boyfriend loves me because I am allowed to verbalize all the criticisms that he's thinking.

    I like the "no comment" policy. But I can't stand not to give my opinion to women, even when it's bad. I want to learn the things I should hold off from criticizing about women. Do you agree with the items above? What do you hate being criticized about by guys?

    最(zui)近(jin)，我(wo)和(he)一(yi)些(xie)工(gong)作(zuo)上(shang)的(de)朋(peng)友(you)在(zai)討(tao)論(lun)男(nan)人(ren)不(bu)能(neng)對(dui)女(nv)人(ren)的(de)哪(na)些(xie)方(fang)麵(mian)評(ping)頭(tou)論(lun)足(zu)的(de)問(wen)題(ti)。討(tao)論(lun)的(de)結(jie)果(guo)是(shi)我(wo)們(men)都(dou)很(hen)驚(jing)訝(ya)於(yu)男(nan)人(ren)們(men)平(ping)時(shi)對(dui)女(nv)人(ren)的(de)評(ping)頭(tou)論(lun)足(zu)是(shi)多(duo)麼(me)的(de)不(bu)正(zheng)確(que)。在(zai)辦(ban)公(gong)室(shi)裏(li)女(nv)同(tong)事(shi)們(men)經(jing)常(chang)被(bei)我(wo)們(men)自(zi)認(ren)為(wei)可(ke)以(yi)談(tan)論(lun)的(de)內(nei)容(rong)嚇(xia)到(dao)。要(yao)是(shi)我(wo)知(zhi)道(dao)要(yao)避(bi)諱(hui)什(shen)麼(me)的(de)話(hua)，我(wo)就(jiu)不(bu)會(hui)和(he)女(nv)同(tong)事(shi)或(huo)女(nv)朋(peng)友(you)發(fa)生(sheng)口(kou)頭(tou)上(shang)的(de)衝(chong)突(tu)，而(er)是(shi)和(he)她(ta)們(men)和(he)諧(xie)相(xiang)處(chu)了(le)。

    我對說了隻有女性的閨密
、同性戀朋友、和母親或姐妹才可以說的話而感到抱歉。以下是我對這些值得道歉的話的一個總結：

    體重

    ruguoniyaoshuoyigenvshengbianpangle
，natayidinghuibeinidezui。jishiniyonghenyouhaodefangshiduitamenshuo，tamenyebutaiyuanyicongyigenanxingdekouzhongtingdaozheyangdehua。zhekanlaixianeryijian
，danyouxienanxingquekanbudaozheyidian。womentiaozhaguobangongshilidenantongshi，nanxingdezhuliuxiangfashiruguoduifangshinidenvpengyouhuozheshishushidenvxing，nijiukeyijianyitamenbaochishencai。worenwei
，womenzuihaohaishiduicibaochichenmo。ruguowozhendehenxiangjianyitajianfeidehua
，yexuwohuiqingtadenvxingpengyoulaidailao。

    裝束

    wojiaodewozhinengshuotamenkanqilaihenhaohuozhetamenchuandechenyihuozheleisidedongxi。ruguoshuodetaijutihuozheyoushenmefumiandepinglunhuigeiwodailaimafan。youyici，woxianghaohaozanyangyigenvhai。woshuotayinweichuanzhexinqunzi
，suoyikanqilaihenbang。nashi，woxiangqiwodejiemeihuopengyouchanghuijingwodehua："謝謝，30塊錢從Target買的".我想再對那女該讚賞幾句： "看起來這件衣服好像很便宜的樣子。"結果我把她弄哭了。女同胞們告訴我，女人穿衣服是要給別的女人留下深刻印象

，而不是為了男人。一般情況下，我應該隻說一句："你看起來真棒"然後就好了。而且我還應該避免說我不喜歡某個女生的著裝
，因為那樣做沒有一點好處。

    朋友/家人

    womendouheyoufanrenpengyouderenyuehuiguo。raner
，renmenrenweipengyoushitamenzishendeyanshen，suoyizainipipingtapengyoudetongshi
，nibianxiangdepipinglenizhongyaodelingyiban。wojiejiejingchanghuizaiwojiefupengyouzhongrangtataoyanderenqianmianjiayige"那個"."噢，你要和那個麥克去看演唱會？"這句活語氣並沒有很強烈，隻是表示小小的不滿。談論家人時的道理是一樣的

，為了避免大的麻煩
，最好不要批評另一半的家人。

    駕駛技巧

    每mei個ge男nan人ren都dou認ren為wei自zi己ji的de駕jia駛shi技ji術shu比bi女nv朋peng友you的de要yao好hao。就jiu這zhe一yi點dian
，我wo從cong妹mei妹mei的de男nan朋peng友you那na裏li學xue了le很hen多duo。一yi天tian，妹mei妹mei開kai車che載zai著zhe我wo和he她ta男nan朋peng友you去qu貝bei爾er蒂di莫mo度du周zhou末mo。她ta的de開kai車che技ji術shu確que實shi很hen爛lan。她ta隻zhi有you到dao非fei刹sha車che不bu可ke的de時shi候hou才cai踩cai下xia刹sha車che，根gen本ben不bu顧gu刹sha車che燈deng的de存cun在zai。這zhe讓rang我wo們men備bei受shou折zhe磨mo，腹fu內nei翻fan江jiang倒dao海hai。路lu上shang我wo就jiu對dui她ta說shuo："你能早點踩刹車嗎，那樣我們就不會因急停感到惡心了。"她卻說："我有這樣嗎
？"我扭過頭向他男朋友尋求確認，他談談的說了一句："不予置評".妹妹的男朋友很喜歡我因為我把他想說卻不能說的都說啦。

    我很喜歡"不予置評"的de策ce略lve。但dan我wo總zong是shi忍ren不bu住zhu要yao給gei女nv性xing提ti點dian建jian議yi，即ji使shi我wo知zhi道dao那na樣yang不bu好hao。我wo想xiang知zhi道dao我wo應ying該gai避bi諱hui的de一yi些xie話hua題ti。你ni同tong意yi我wo列lie出chu的de這zhe些xie內nei容rong嗎ma
？你ni也ye很hen討tao厭yan被bei男nan人ren評ping頭tou論lun足zu嗎ma？