你有沒有這樣的時候：yudaoleyijianshi
，huixiang
，zhegewokenengbuxingba，zhegewozuobule，zhegehaishiranggeibiwogengqiangderenlaizuoba
，haishiduotingtingbierenzenmeshuoba。kansiqianxu，qishishibuzixinne。xiangyaogaibianzhezhongqingkuang？yiqilaikankanbangzhunitishenggerenzixinde10種殺手鐧吧。

    Here they are, in no particular order:

    以下這些就是，它們並沒有進行特別的排列：

    1. Groom yourself. 裝扮自己。

    This seems like such an obvious one, but it's amazing how much of a difference a shower and a shave can make in your feelings of self-confidence and for your self-image. There have been days when I turned my mood around completely with this one little thing.

    這(zhe)似(si)乎(hu)看(kan)上(shang)去(qu)顯(xian)而(er)易(yi)見(jian)了(le)，但(dan)洗(xi)澡(zao)或(huo)是(shi)剃(ti)胡(hu)須(xu)後(hou)給(gei)你(ni)自(zi)我(wo)感(gan)覺(jiao)上(shang)帶(dai)來(lai)的(de)自(zi)信(xin)和(he)自(zi)我(wo)形(xing)象(xiang)上(shang)的(de)改(gai)進(jin)卻(que)是(shi)很(hen)神(shen)奇(qi)的(de)。一(yi)直(zhi)以(yi)來(lai)

，你(ni)就(jiu)是(shi)通(tong)過(guo)這(zhe)樣(yang)一(yi)件(jian)小(xiao)小(xiao)的(de)事(shi)情(qing)來(lai)徹(che)底(di)的(de)改(gai)變(bian)自(zi)己(ji)的(de)情(qing)緒(xu)。

    2. Dress nicely. 穿戴好些。

    A corollary of the first item above … if you dress nicely, you'll feel good about yourself. You'll feel successful and presentable and ready to tackle the world. Now, dressing nicely means something different for everyone … it doesn't necessarily mean wearing a $500 outfit, but could mean casual clothes that are nice looking and presentable.

    這是上麵一條必然產生的結果……如ru果guo你ni穿chuan戴dai好hao些xie，你ni的de自zi我wo感gan覺jiao會hui很hen好hao，你ni會hui覺jiao得de自zi己ji很hen成cheng功gong
，很hen得de體ti，已yi經jing準zhun備bei好hao來lai應ying對dui這zhe個ge世shi界jie。這zhe裏li


，穿chuan戴dai好hao對dui於yu每mei個ge人ren來lai說shuo是shi不bu一yi樣yang的de…你不必穿500美元一套的衣服
，但可以穿很好看也很得體的休閑服飾。

    3. Photoshop your self-image. 修改你的自我形象。

    Our self-image means so much to us, more than we often realize. We have a mental picture of ourselves, and it determines how confident we are in ourselves. But this picture isn't fixed and immutable. You can change it. Use your mental Photoshopping skills, and work on your self-image. If it's not a very good one, change it. Figure out why you see yourself that way, and find a way to fix it.

    自zi我wo形xing象xiang對dui於yu我wo們men來lai說shuo意yi義yi重zhong大da，比bi我wo們men認ren為wei的de重zhong要yao得de多duo。我wo們men在zai腦nao海hai裏li都dou有you一yi個ge自zi我wo形xing象xiang
，它ta決jue定ding了le我wo們men自zi信xin的de程cheng度du。但dan這zhe個ge形xing象xiang不bu是shi固gu定ding改gai變bian的de，你ni可ke以yi改gai變bian它ta的de。多duo使shi用yong你ni的de腦nao海hai中zhong的de圖tu像xiang修xiu改gai功gong能neng
，用yong在zai你ni的de自zi我wo形xing象xiang上shang。如ru果guo你ni腦nao海hai中zhong的de自zi我wo形xing象xiang不bu是shi很hen好hao，就jiu修xiu改gai一yi下xia吧ba。找zhao到dao為wei什shen麼me你ni那na樣yang看kan待dai自zi己ji
，並bing找zhao個ge方fang法fa解jie決jue它ta。

    4. Think positive. 積極思考。

    One of the things I learned when I started running, about two years ago, what how to replace negative thoughts （see next item） with positive ones. How I can actually change my thoughts, and by doing so make great things happened. With this tiny little skill, I was able to train for and run a marathon within a year. It sounds so trite, so Norman Vincent Peale, but my goodness this works. Seriously. Try it if you haven't.

    二年前
，當我學習跑步時，我學到的一件事情是如何用積極的想法來取代消極的想法（見下一條）.如ru何he通tong過guo這zhe樣yang改gai變bian自zi己ji的de想xiang法fa來lai使shi好hao的de事shi情qing發fa生sheng。就jiu是shi使shi用yong這zhe樣yang一yi個ge小xiao小xiao的de技ji藝yi，我wo在zai不bu到dao一yi年nian訓xun練lian後hou就jiu能neng跑pao馬ma拉la鬆song。這zhe聽ting起qi來lai是shi如ru此ci陳chen腐fu，和he諾nuo曼man。文wen森sen特te。皮pi爾er一yi樣yang。但dan謝xie天tian謝xie地di它ta很hen有you效xiao。真zhen的de，如ru果guo你ni還hai沒mei有you試shi過guo的de話hua
，不bu妨fang試shi一yi試shi。

    5. Kill negative thoughts. 去除消極的想法。

    Goes hand-in-hand with the above item, but it's so important that I made it a separate item. You have to learn to be aware of your self-talk, the thoughts you have about yourself and what you're doing. When I was running, sometimes my mind would start to say, "This is too hard. I want to stop and go watch TV." Well, I soon learned to recognize this negative self-talk, and soon I learned a trick that changed everything in my life: I would imagine that a negative thought was a bug, and I would vigilantly be on the lookout for these bugs. When I caught one, I would stomp on it （mentally of course） and squash it. Kill it dead. Then replace it with a positive one. （"C'mon, I can do this! Only one mile left!"）

    這zhe一yi條tiao與yu上shang一yi條tiao是shi連lian在zai一yi起qi的de

，但dan因yin為wei它ta如ru此ci重zhong要yao，我wo把ba它ta作zuo為wei單dan獨du一yi項xiang列lie出chu來lai。你ni必bi須xu清qing楚chu自zi己ji內nei心xin的de想xiang法fa，清qing楚chu你ni自zi己ji是shi誰shui和he你ni在zai幹gan什shen麼me。當dang我wo在zai跑pao步bu裏li，有you時shi我wo腦nao海hai裏li開kai始shi講jiang："這太難了，我想停下來，去看電視。"當然，我很快就學會分辨這種內心消極的想法，並學會那個可以改變生活中一切的小竅門：我會想象消極的想法就是一個小臭蟲，我會非常警惕的搜查這引起小臭蟲。當我抓住一個，我就狠狠跺幾腳（當然指精神上的）,然後捏碎
，殺死它。然後用積極的想法取代它。（"加油，我可能做到的
，不過隻剩一裏而已"）

    Know yourself and you will win all battles. - Sun Tzu

    知己知彼，百戰不殆。-孫子

    6. Get to know yourself. 了解你自己。

    When going into battle, the wisest general learns to know his enemy very, very well. You can't defeat the enemy without knowing him. And when you're trying to overcome a negative self-image and replace it with self-confidence, your enemy is yourself. Get to know yourself well. Start listening to your thoughts. Start writing a journal about yourself, and about the thoughts you have about yourself, and analyzing why you have such negative thoughts. And then think about the good things about yourself, the things you can do well, the things you like. Start thinking about your limitations, and whether they're real limitations or just ones you've allowed to be placed there, artificially. Dig deep within yourself, and you'll come out （eventually） with even greater self-confidence.

    zaiyaodazhangqian
，zuicongmingdejiangjunhuijiangdirenlejiedeyiqingerchu。ruguonibulejienidediren

，nishiwufazhanshengtade。dangnishituzhanshengxiaojidegerenxingxiang

，biandezixinxiehua，nidedirenjiushiniziji。haohaolejienizhidao，kaishilingtingnidexiangfa，kaishibianxieguanyuzijihezijixiangfaderizhi
，fenxinichanshengzhexiexiaojidexiangfa。ranhouxiangxiangguanyuzijidehaodefangmian，naxienikeyizuodehenhaodebingqiexihuandeshiqing。kaishixiangxiangshenmenidejuxianxing
，bingnongqingchushifoushizhendejuxianleni，haijinjinshiniyunxubaifangzainalixujiazhangai。shenshendewajuezijidexiangfa
，zuizhongnihuigengjiazixin。

    7. Act positive. 積極行動。

    More than just thinking positive, you have to put it into action. Action, actually, is the key to developing self-confidence. It's one thing to learn to think positive, but when you start acting on it, you change yourself, one action at a time. You are what you do, and so if you change what you do, you change what you are. Act in a positive way, take action instead of telling yourself you can't, be positive. Talk to people in a positive way, put energy into your actions. You'll soon start to notice a difference.

    除chu了le要yao積ji極ji思si考kao
，你ni還hai要yao付fu諸zhu行xing動dong，事shi實shi上shang，這zhe是shi發fa展zhan個ge人ren自zi信xin的de關guan鍵jian。積ji極ji思si考kao是shi一yi回hui事shi，當dang你ni開kai始shi行xing動dong時shi，你ni又you改gai變bian了le，所suo以yi一yi次ci做zuo好hao一yi件jian事shi情qing。你ni所suo做zuo事shi情qing決jue定ding了le你ni
，當dang你ni改gai變bian你ni所suo做zuo時shi，你ni就jiu改gai變bian了le你ni自zi己ji。用yong積ji極ji方fang式shi行xing動dong，采cai取qu措cuo施shi而er不bu是shi僅jin僅jin告gao訴su自zi己ji你ni不bu行xing，積ji極ji一yi些xie。用yong積ji極ji的de方fang式shi與yu人ren交jiao談tan，精jing力li充chong沛pei的de行xing動dong。要yao不bu了le多duo久jiu
，你ni就jiu會hui發fa現xian自zi己ji的de改gai變bian。

    8. Be kind and generous. 友好且慷慨。

    Oh, so corny. If this is too corny for you, move on. But for the rest of you, know that being kind to others, and generous with yourself and your time and what you have, is a tremendous way to improve your self-image. You act in accordance with the Golden Rule, and you start to feel good about yourself, and to think that you are a good person. It does wonders for your self-confidence, believe me.

    噢
，太老土了。如果這對你來說太老土的話，繼續前進。但你應該知道，對別人友好，慷慨於你自己、nideshijianhenisuoyongyoude，shigaishanniziwoxingxiangdefeichanghaodefangfa。nizunconghuangjinzhunzexingshi
，nijiangziwoganjiaolianghao，renweizijishigehenhaoderen。xiangxinwo
，tahuiduinidezixinchanshengqijibandexiaoguode。

    One important key to success is self-confidence. A key to self-confidence is preparation. - Arthur Ashe

    成功的關鍵是自信，自信的關鍵是有所準備。--阿瑟·阿什

    9. Get prepared. 時刻準備好。

    It's hard to be confident in yourself if you don't think you'll do well at something. Beat that feeling by preparing yourself as much as possible. Think about taking an exam: if you haven't studied, you won't have much confidence in your abilities to do well on the exam. But if you studied your butt off, you're prepared, and you'll be much more confident. Now think of life as your exam, and prepare yourself.

    如果你不知道你會做好某件事
，那麼自信會很困難。盡可能把自己準備好，來擊退不自信的想法。想想正在考試：ruguonimeiyouxuexi，nihuibuxiangxinzijiyounenglikaohaoshi。danruguonixuehaole
，zhunbeihaole，nijiuhuiyouxinxinduole。xianzai，nibashengmingdangzuokaoshi，zhunbeihaoniziji。

    10. Know your principles and live them. 明白自己的原則，並實踐它們。

    What are the principles upon which your life is built? If you don't know, you will have trouble, because your life will feel directionless. For myself, I try to live the Golden Rule （and fail often）. This is my key principle, and I try to live my life in accordance with it. I have others, but they are mostly in some way related to this rule （the major exception being to "Live my Passion"）. Think about your principles … you might have them but perhaps you haven't given them much thought. Now think about whether you actually live these principles, or if you just believe in them but don't act on them.

    你ni的de生sheng活huo是shi建jian立li在zai怎zen樣yang的de原yuan則ze之zhi上shang的de？如ru果guo你ni不bu知zhi道dao，就jiu會hui比bi較jiao麻ma煩fan，因yin為wei你ni的de生sheng將jiang活huo毫hao無wu方fang向xiang感gan而er言yan。對dui於yu我wo自zi己ji

，我wo一yi直zhi遵zun從cong黃huang金jin準zhun則ze（常常失敗）.它是我最基本的原則，我試圖遵從黃金準則來生活。我也有其它的原則，但大部分都和黃金準則有關的（"充滿激情的生活"例外）.多想想你的原則……你可能有這些原則

，但很少去思考它們。現在想想你是否遵守這些原則，還是僅僅相信它們，卻很少采取行動。