Self confidence is the difference between feeling unstoppable and feeling scared out of your wits. Your perception of yourself has an enormous impact on how others perceive you. Perception is reality — the more self confidence you have, the more likely it is you’ll succeed.

Although many of the factors affecting self confidence are beyond your control, there are a number of things you can consciously do to build self confidence. By using these 10 strategies you can get the mental edge you need to reach your potential.

Build Self Confidence

1. Dress Sharp

Although clothes don’t make the man, they certainly affect the way he feels about himself. No one is more conscious of your physical appearance than you are. When you don’t look good, it changes the way you carry yourself and interact with other people. Use this to your advantage by taking care of your personal appearance. In most cases, significant improvements can be made by bathing and shaving frequently, wearing clean clothes, and being cognizant of the latest styles.

This doesn’t mean you need to spend a lot on clothes. One great rule to follow is “spend twice as much, buy half as much”. Rather than buying a bunch of cheap clothes, buy half as many select, high quality items. In long run this decreases spending because expensive clothes wear out less easily and stay in style longer than cheap clothes. Buying less also helps reduce the clutter in your closet.

2. Walk Faster

One of the easiest ways to tell how a person feels about herself is to examine her walk. Is it slow? tired? painful? Or is it energetic and purposeful? People with confidence walk quickly. They have places to go, people to see, and important work to do. Even if you aren’t in a hurry, you can increase your self confidence by putting some pep in your step. Walking 25% faster will make to you look and feel more important.

3. Good Posture

Similarly, the way a person carries herself tells a story. People with slumped shoulders and lethargic movements display a lack of self confidence. They aren’t enthusiastic about what they’re doing and they don’t consider themselves important. By practicing good posture, you’ll automatically feel more confident. Stand up straight, keep your head up, and make eye contact. You’ll make a positive impression on others and instantly feel more alert and empowered.

4. Personal Commercial

One of the best ways to build confidence is listening to a motivational speech. Unfortunately, opportunities to listen to a great speaker are few and far between. You can fill this need by creating a personal commercial. Write a 30-60 second speech that highlights your strengths and goals. Then recite it in front of the mirror aloud (or inside your head if you prefer) whenever you need a confidence boost.

5. Gratitude

When you focus too much on what you want, the mind creates reasons why you can’t have it. This leads you to dwell on your weaknesses. The best way to avoid this is consciously focusing on gratitude. Set aside time each day to mentally list everything you have to be grateful for. Recall your past successes, unique skills, loving relationships, and positive momentum. You’ll be amazed how much you have going for you and motivated to take that next step towards success.

6. Compliment other people

When we think negatively about ourselves, we often project that feeling on to others in the form of insults and gossip. To break this cycle of negativity, get in the habit of praising other people. Refuse to engage in backstabbing gossip and make an effort to compliment those around you. In the process, you’ll become well liked and build self confidence. By looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring out the best in yourself.

7. Sit in the front row

In schools, offices, and public assemblies around the world, people constantly strive to sit at the back of the room. Most people prefer the back because they’re afraid of being noticed. This reflects a lack of self confidence. By deciding to sit in the front row, you can get over this irrational fear and build your self confidence. You’ll also be more visible to the important people talking from the front of the room.

8. Speak up

During group discussions many people never speak up because they’re afraid that people will judge them for saying something stupid. This fear isn’t really justified. Generally, people are much more accepting than we imagine. In fact most people are dealing with the exact same fears. By making an effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion, you’ll become a better public speaker, more confident in your own thoughts, and recognized as a leader by your peers.

9. Work out

Along the same lines as personal appearance, physical fitness has a huge effect on self confidence. If you’re out of shape, you’ll feel insecure, unattractive, and less energetic. By working out, you improve your physcial appearance, energize yourself, and accomplish something positive. Having the discipline to work out not only makes you feel better, it creates positive momentum that you can build on the rest of the day.

10. Focus on contribution

Too often we get caught up in our own desires. We focus too much on ourselves and not enough on the needs of other people. If you stop thinking about yourself and concentrate on the contribution you’re making to the rest of the world, you won’t worry as much about you own flaws. This will increase self confidence and allow you to contribute with maximum efficiency. The more you contribute to the world the more you’ll be rewarded with personal success and recognition.

自信與剛愎自用的感覺以及不知所措的恐慌感覺都不相同。你對自己的感知，極大地影響著別人如何感知你。感知是現實的——你越有自信，你越有可能成功。

盡管有許多影響自信的因素你不可控製，但是，為了建立自信，仍然有一些你可以有意識去做的事情。通過采取下麵 10 個策略
，你可以獲得你需要的心理優勢來激發你的潛力。

建立自信

1.利索的著裝

雖sui然ran衣yi服fu並bing不bu能neng成cheng就jiu一yi個ge男nan人ren，但dan是shi衣yi服fu確que實shi可ke以yi影ying響xiang一yi個ge人ren對dui自zi己ji的de感gan覺jiao。沒mei有you一yi個ge人ren比bi你ni更geng能neng察cha覺jiao到dao自zi己ji的de身shen體ti外wai表biao。當dang你ni看kan上shang去qu並bing不bu好hao的de時shi候hou
，這zhe會hui改gai變bian你ni自zi己ji行xing事shi的de方fang式shi以yi及ji與yu其qi他ta人ren的de溝gou通tong。利li用yong這zhe一yi點dian
，通tong過guo關guan注zhu個ge人ren的de外wai表biao來lai實shi現xian自zi己ji的de優you勢shi吧ba。在zai大da多duo數shu情qing況kuang下xia，可ke以yi通tong過guo經jing常chang沐mu浴yu和he剃ti須xu，穿chuan著zhe幹gan淨jing的de衣yi服fu，以yi及ji接jie觸chu最zui新xin的de款kuan式shi來lai取qu得de重zhong大da的de改gai進jin。

這並不意味著你需要在服飾上花很多錢。一個應該遵循的最好法則就是“花兩倍的錢
，買一半數量的衣服”。與yu其qi買mai一yi大da堆dui的de廉lian價jia的de衣yi服fu
，不bu如ru像xiang許xu多duo人ren所suo挑tiao選xuan的de那na樣yang買mai一yi半ban數shu量liang的de高gao檔dang服fu裝zhuang。從cong長chang遠yuan來lai看kan，這zhe是shi節jie約yue開kai支zhi的de，因yin為wei貴gui重zhong的de衣yi服fu不bu太tai容rong易yi穿chuan壞huai，而er且qie能neng比bi廉lian價jia的de衣yi服fu更geng長chang久jiu地di保bao持chi樣yang式shi。少shao買mai衣yi服fu也ye有you助zhu於yu減jian少shao你ni衣yi櫃gui裏li的de雜za亂luan程cheng度du。

2.快一點行走

辨bian別bie一yi個ge人ren自zi身shen感gan覺jiao如ru何he的de最zui簡jian單dan方fang法fa，是shi查zha看kan她ta的de走zou路lu。她ta的de走zou路lu是shi慢man的de

？疲pi倦juan的de
？痛tong苦ku的de？或huo者zhe是shi精jing力li充chong沛pei和he有you決jue心xin的de？滿man懷huai信xin心xin的de人ren走zou路lu是shi快kuai的de。他ta們men有you要yao去qu的de地di方fang，有you要yao會hui見jian的de人ren，有you要yao做zuo的de重zhong要yao工gong作zuo。即ji使shi你ni並bing不bu匆cong忙mang，你ni也ye可ke以yi通tong過guo在zai你ni的de步bu子zi上shang鼓gu起qi精jing神shen來lai提ti高gao自zi信xin。提ti高gao 25% 的步行速度將使得你看上去並且感覺到更加顯要。

3.良好的姿勢

同tong樣yang的de，一yi個ge人ren的de姿zi勢shi流liu露lu他ta的de內nei心xin。一yi個ge具ju有you耷da拉la雙shuang肩jian和he困kun倦juan動dong作zuo的de人ren顯xian示shi出chu的de是shi缺que乏fa自zi信xin。他ta們men對dui自zi己ji正zheng在zai做zuo的de事shi情qing不bu熱re情qing
，他ta們men不bu認ren為wei自zi己ji是shi要yao緊jin的de。通tong過guo練lian習xi好hao的de姿zi態tai
，你ni會hui自zi然ran地di感gan覺jiao到dao更geng為wei自zi信xin。挺ting直zhi腰yao板ban，抬tai起qi頭tou，進jin行xing眼yan神shen交jiao流liu。你ni會hui給gei他ta人ren以yi積ji極ji的de印yin象xiang，並bing且qie立li即ji感gan到dao更geng為wei機ji敏min和he頑wan強qiang。

4.個人商業廣告

jianlizixindezuijiafangfazhiyishilingtingyipianjilirenxindeyanjiang。kexi，nenggoulingtingyouxiuyanjiangdejihuifengmaolinjiao。nikeyitongguozijichuangzaoyigegerenshangyeguanggaolaimibuzhefangmiandexuyao。xieyipian 30-60 秒鍾的演講，內容要突出自己的優勢和目標。每當你需要放大膽子的時候
，就麵對鏡子大聲地朗讀它（如果你喜歡的話也可以在你的頭腦中默念）。

5.感激之情

在(zai)你(ni)過(guo)分(fen)關(guan)注(zhu)你(ni)想(xiang)要(yao)的(de)東(dong)西(xi)時(shi)
，心(xin)中(zhong)會(hui)產(chan)生(sheng)為(wei)什(shen)麼(me)我(wo)不(bu)能(neng)得(de)到(dao)它(ta)的(de)許(xu)多(duo)理(li)由(you)。這(zhe)會(hui)導(dao)致(zhi)你(ni)滯(zhi)留(liu)在(zai)自(zi)己(ji)的(de)弱(ruo)點(dian)上(shang)。避(bi)免(mian)出(chu)現(xian)這(zhe)種(zhong)情(qing)況(kuang)的(de)最(zui)好(hao)方(fang)法(fa)是(shi)有(you)意(yi)識(shi)的(de)擁(yong)有(you)一(yi)顆(ke)感(gan)恩(en)之(zhi)心(xin)。每(mei)天(tian)花(hua)點(dian)時(shi)間(jian)在(zai)頭(tou)腦(nao)裏(li)麵(mian)列(lie)出(chu)你(ni)需(xu)要(yao)感(gan)謝(xie)的(de)每(mei)件(jian)事(shi)情(qing)。回(hui)憶(yi)一(yi)下(xia)你(ni)過(guo)去(qu)的(de)成(cheng)功(gong)、獨特的技能、友愛的人際關係以及積極的動力。你將會驚訝你已經進步了這麼多
，並且受到激勵朝向成功邁出下一步。

6.讚揚他人

dangwomenxiaojidixiangdaozijideshihou
，womenchangchangbiaoxianchuyimouzhongxingshidewuruhuobuxieduidaitarendeganjiao。weiledapozhezhongxiaojixunhuan

，niyinggaijianlizanyangbierendexiguan。jujuejuanrudaoliuyanfeiyudeyilunzhizhong，nulizanmeinizhouweiderenmen。zaizhegeguochengzhong，nihuibiandegengjiataorenxihuan，tongshijianliqizixin。tongguoxunzhaobierendeyoudian

，nihuijianjiedidailaizijideyoudian。

7.坐在前排

在世界各地的學校
、辦ban公gong室shi或huo者zhe公gong共gong場chang合he，人ren們men經jing常chang是shi爭zheng取qu坐zuo在zai後hou麵mian的de位wei置zhi。大da多duo數shu的de人ren們men寧ning願yuan坐zuo在zai後hou麵mian是shi因yin為wei他ta們men害hai怕pa被bei人ren注zhu意yi。這zhe反fan映ying缺que乏fa自zi信xin。下xia決jue心xin坐zuo到dao前qian排pai去qu吧ba，你ni可ke以yi戰zhan勝sheng這zhe種zhong不bu合he理li的de恐kong懼ju並bing且qie建jian立li起qi你ni的de自zi信xin。在zai房fang間jian前qian麵mian談tan話hua的de重zhong要yao人ren物wu也ye會hui更geng容rong易yi看kan到dao你ni。

8.大膽發言

henduorenzaixiaozutaolunzhongconglaibufayan，yinweitamenhaiparenmenpingjiatamenshuoguomouxieyuchundewenti。zheyangdehaipashizaishibuhelide。yibaneryan
，renmenshibiwomenxiangxiangdegengjuyoujienaxingde。shishishang，henduorendouzaimianduiwanquantongyangdekongju。zuochunuli，zaimeicixiaozutaolunzhongzhishaofayanyici，nijiangchengweiyigegenghaodegonggongyanjiangzhe
，duinizijidexiangfagengyouxinxin，tongshiyehuibeinidetonglingrenkanzuoshilingtouren。

9.戶外活動

與個人外表一樣
，身體健康對自信心有巨大的影響。如果你身體不健全，你會感到不安全
、meiyouxiyinlibingqiequefahuoli。tongguohuwaihuodong，nikeyigaijinnideshentiwaixing

，geizijiyihuoli，bingqiejijiwanchengmouxieshiqing。youlehuwaihuodongdexunlian

，bujinshiniganjiaogenghao，yechuangzaolenizaiyitianshengxiadeshijianlikenengjianlidejijishitou。

10. 關注貢獻

我(wo)們(men)常(chang)常(chang)過(guo)於(yu)考(kao)慮(lv)自(zi)己(ji)的(de)欲(yu)望(wang)。我(wo)們(men)對(dui)自(zi)己(ji)關(guan)注(zhu)過(guo)多(duo)，就(jiu)對(dui)別(bie)人(ren)的(de)需(xu)求(qiu)關(guan)注(zhu)不(bu)夠(gou)。如(ru)果(guo)你(ni)停(ting)止(zhi)考(kao)慮(lv)自(zi)己(ji)並(bing)且(qie)專(zhuan)注(zhu)於(yu)你(ni)對(dui)世(shi)界(jie)上(shang)其(qi)他(ta)人(ren)所(suo)做(zuo)出(chu)的(de)貢(gong)獻(xian)，你(ni)就(jiu)不(bu)會(hui)那(na)麼(me)多(duo)地(di)擔(dan)憂(you)自(zi)己(ji)的(de)缺(que)欠(qian)。這(zhe)將(jiang)增(zeng)加(jia)你(ni)的(de)自(zi)信(xin)，並(bing)且(qie)讓(rang)你(ni)以(yi)更(geng)高(gao)的(de)效(xiao)率(lv)做(zuo)出(chu)貢(gong)獻(xian)。你(ni)對(dui)世(shi)界(jie)貢(gong)獻(xian)得(de)越(yue)多(duo)
，你(ni)就(jiu)會(hui)在(zai)個(ge)人(ren)成(cheng)功(gong)和(he)被(bei)人(ren)承(cheng)認(ren)方(fang)麵(mian)得(de)到(dao)更(geng)多(duo)的(de)回(hui)報(bao)。