Sleep loss can kill a relationship. In a study at the University of California at Berkeley, researchers found that sleep deprivation fractures brain mechanisms that tame our emotional responses to stressors. In other words, once provoked by a spouse or significant other after sleep deprivation, there's no guarantee we will play nice. And that kills sex and considerably lowers the chances of staying together. Here's how to make sure that doesn't happen.

    1. TALK TO YOUR PARTNER.

    Be factual, brief, and don't bring in other issues. Avoid personal criticism. Women who refuse to discuss sleep issues with their partners may be putting themselves at risk for more than insomnia. A Maryland study recently found that women who "self-silenced" during conflicts with their spouses were four times more likely to die over a 10-year period than women who did not.

    2. EMPHASIZE THAT IT'S "OUR" PROBLEM.

    That makes it clear that you're in this for the long haul and you've got his back.

    3. ENCOURAGE HIM TO GET HELP.

    Suggest he make an appointment with your family doctor to discuss the issue and consider whether or not a referral to a sleep center certified by the American Academy of Sleep Medicine would help.

    4. USE PROPS.

    Eye masks, ear plugs, white-noise machines, mattresses with "firmness" controls, feather boas-use whatever it takes to increase the likelihood that you'll sleep through your partner's tossing and turning.

    5. SEPARATE.

    If the problem is long-term, think twin beds or separate rooms. You can always tiptoe in for a morning cuddle after a good night's sleep.

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    1. 和伴侶聊聊天

    實shi際ji一yi點dian，簡jian短duan一yi點dian
，不bu要yao扯che到dao其qi他ta話hua題ti，不bu要yao批pi評ping伴ban侶lv。如ru果guo你ni的de女nv伴ban不bu想xiang在zai睡shui時shi談tan論lun問wen題ti，那na可ke能neng說shuo明ming煎jian熬ao她ta的de可ke不bu隻zhi是shi失shi眠mian。最zui近jin，一yi項xiang來lai自zi馬ma裏li蘭lan大da學xue的de研yan究jiu顯xian示shi
，和he與yu伴ban侶lv爭zheng吵chao時shi"發揮正常"的相比
，那些"自行安靜"的女性減少十年壽命的可能性大大地增加了。

    2.強調這是"我們的"問題

    這將告訴你的伴侶，你會一直陪伴在她/他身邊
，不棄不離。

    3. 鼓勵她/他去尋求幫助

    建議她/他去找找你們的家庭醫生，一起研究睡眠問題；美國睡眠醫學學會認證了一些睡眠中心，可以考慮前往那些醫院尋求幫助。

    4. 采用小道具

    眼罩
、耳塞
、白噪聲機1
、能控製好的墊子、毛皮披肩---無論是什麼。當伴侶翻來覆去時，用些小道具能讓你睡得更安穩。

    5. 分開睡覺

    如果這個問題已經持續很久了，可以考慮睡在不同的床或者分房。安睡一夜後，這時能來一個溫情的偎依。