Sometimes you want to make a good impression with everyone and seem like you're interested in the rest of the group. Especially when you've just met some new people, it's usually better to lean towards the outgoing end of the scale. Getting that "quiet" label often works against those plans. Here are some simple strategies I came up with that help me be less quiet and come up with things to say:

    有(you)時(shi)你(ni)想(xiang)給(gei)他(ta)人(ren)留(liu)下(xia)好(hao)印(yin)象(xiang)，或(huo)者(zhe)想(xiang)要(yao)表(biao)現(xian)你(ni)對(dui)團(tuan)體(ti)中(zhong)其(qi)他(ta)成(cheng)員(yuan)的(de)興(xing)趣(qu)，尤(you)其(qi)當(dang)你(ni)剛(gang)剛(gang)認(ren)識(shi)一(yi)些(xie)人(ren)時(shi)，通(tong)常(chang)是(shi)表(biao)現(xian)得(de)外(wai)向(xiang)點(dian)更(geng)好(hao)。被(bei)貼(tie)上(shang)"沉悶"的標簽常常有害無益。以下是我自己想出來的一些簡單的對策，它們幫助我不再沉默寡言，並且能夠有話可說。

    Tell yourself that you have to say something every so often

    提醒自己必須不時說些什麼

    One thing that works for me is to make an explicit rule in my head that I have to say something at least every few minutes, preferably more. If not, I know people may perceive me as quiet. It seems basic, but when I spell it out to myself like this, it forces me to continually try to add new points to the discussion. Before realizing this, I'd hang back and listen to everyone, and take everything in, but sometimes go ten minutes or more without uttering a word. Or I'd get lost in my head and get distracted by my own thoughts and daydreams. You can't do that. You have to talk more often than it feels like you do. Consciously knowing this helps you do it.

    對dui我wo挺ting有you效xiao的de一yi條tiao是shi，在zai腦nao子zi裏li樹shu立li一yi個ge明ming晰xi的de條tiao例li，規gui定ding我wo必bi須xu至zhi少shao每mei隔ge幾ji分fen鍾zhong說shuo幾ji句ju話hua
，或huo者zhe更geng多duo。如ru果guo沒mei做zuo到dao，我wo明ming白bai人ren們men就jiu會hui覺jiao得de我wo沉chen悶men。這zhe看kan起qi來lai很hen初chu級ji，但dan當dang我wo親qin口kou對dui自zi己ji這zhe樣yang說shuo，就jiu能neng迫po使shi我wo自zi己ji不bu斷duan地di嚐chang試shi為wei當dang前qian的de討tao論lun加jia點dian料liao。在zai認ren識shi到dao這zhe一yi點dian之zhi前qian，我wo畏wei縮suo不bu前qian
，傾qing聽ting每mei個ge人ren的de高gao談tan闊kuo論lun，接jie納na他ta們men所suo說shuo的de一yi切qie，有you時shi連lian續xu十shi分fen鍾zhong（甚至更久）一yi言yan不bu發fa。或huo者zhe
，我wo在zai自zi己ji的de腦nao海hai裏li迷mi了le路lu
，被bei我wo自zi己ji的de思si緒xu和he浮fu想xiang攪jiao得de心xin神shen不bu寧ning。你ni不bu能neng那na樣yang。你ni要yao更geng頻pin繁fan地di開kai口kou，而er不bu是shi在zai思si緒xu翩pian翩pian中zhong自zi我wo感gan覺jiao良liang好hao。有you意yi識shi地di明ming確que這zhe一yi點dian能neng幫bang助zhu你ni開kai口kou。

    When you're new to a group of people who all know each other, this rule especially applies. The onus is often on you to get yourself into their conversation. They may all be comfortable with each other, and benignly neglect to actively include you.

    當dang你ni走zou近jin彼bi此ci都dou已yi相xiang識shi的de一yi群qun人ren時shi
，這zhe條tiao規gui律lv尤you其qi適shi用yong。因yin為wei參can與yu談tan話hua的de義yi務wu通tong常chang在zai你ni。他ta們men可ke能neng已yi然ran相xiang處chu融rong洽qia
，互hu感gan親qin切qie而er忘wang記ji了le對dui方fang的de存cun在zai
，但dan同tong時shi卻que也ye忽hu視shi了le你ni。

    Don't filter yourself too much when trying to think of something to say

    構思說話內容時
，不要過度地自我審查

    Often when I feel like I can't think of anything to say, there are actually lots of potential conversation topics passing through my mind. But instead of going with them, I nix them for one reason or another; "No, I can't say that. It's too boring.", "No, that's too out of the blue.", "Oh, I'm kind of nervous saying that, though I couldn't tell you why." Instead of censoring yourself too much, just spit out some of the ideas passing through your mind.

    tongchangqingkuangxia
，dangwojiaodewoshizaixiangbuchuyoushenmekeshuo，qishihaishiyouhenduoqianzaidehuaticongwonaohaizhongchuanguo。danshiwobingweikaikou，wochuyuzheyanghuonayangdeyuanyinbatameneshale。"不，我不能說這個。它太無聊了。""不行
，那太聳人聽聞。","哦
，說這個我會有點緊張，不知道是為什麼。"這樣的自我審查就太苛刻了，還是把你腦子裏一閃而過的想法一吐為快吧。

    Don't fret too much about saying generic things

    不必擔心自己的話語平淡無奇

    I've read a lot of advice telling me not to bore people with cliched, unoriginal conversation topics. This has sunk in so much that sometimes I'll find myself paralyzed in social situations. I'll meet someone new and not say anything to them because I think it's a huge faux pas to ask them something uninspired, like where they work.

    wozengjingduguohenduojianyi
，tamengaosuwo，buyaonaweirujilei，chencilantiaodehuatilairangrenjiaodewuliao。zhegeshuofashenruwoneixinzhishen
，yizhiyuyoushiwofaxianzijizaishejiaochanghexingtongtanhuan。wohuixinrenshiyixieren
，quebudasuanhetamenshuodianshenme。yinweiworenwei，ruguowoshuoleshenmerangtamenjiaodehaowuchudongdedongxi
，jiushijudadeshili
，liru，xunwentamenzainaligongzuo。

    Just say this stuff anyways. Something is better than nothing. Often, dull questions like, "What do you do for fun?", or "Seen any good movies lately?" get the ball rolling. Soon enough you're talking about something more interesting. They can be a necessary evil, a reliable, if tiresome, fallback. When people ask me questions I've heard to answer a million times before, I'm not always crazy about it, but don't hold it against them either. Ideally you can avoid boring topics, but if you can't think of anything else to say, then go with them as opposed to be quiet.

    就在一般意義上說說這件事吧。有，總是聊勝於無。通常，愚蠢的問題，如"你喜歡做什麼？",或"最近看過什麼好電影？"jiunengyinqihuati。henkuainimenjiuhuizhuanertanlunyixiegengyouqudedongxile。yuchundehuatibuhao
，queyouquezhibuke，jiusuanhenwuliao，yeshiyizhongwendingkekaodehoubeifangan。dangrenmenwenyigewoyijingdaleyibaiwancidewenti，woweibibujiaodeyaofafeng
，danshiwoyebuhuiguaizuitamen。zailixiangdeqingkuangxia，nikeyibimianshejiwuliaodehuati，danshiruguonixiangbuchushenmebiedehualai
，najiuyongtamenba，yimianlengchang。

    Take the lead in the conversation if it's not going your way

    控製談話的方向
，如果它偏離了你的軌道

    Often I'll be quiet because the people I'm with are discussing something where I have zero to add, usually because I know nothing about the topic. If that goes on too long, then I'm suddenly the quiet one. If the conversation isn't going your way, try to take the lead and switch it to an area where you'll naturally have more to talk about.

    經jing常chang，我wo保bao持chi沉chen默mo是shi因yin為wei同tong處chu的de人ren們men正zheng在zai討tao論lun我wo覺jiao得de無wu話hua可ke說shuo的de東dong西xi
，這zhe往wang往wang因yin為wei我wo對dui這zhe個ge話hua題ti一yi無wu所suo知zhi。如ru果guo這zhe持chi續xu得de太tai久jiu了le
，我wo就jiu突tu兀wu地di成cheng了le沉chen悶men的de人ren。如ru果guo談tan話hua沒mei在zai你ni的de軌gui道dao上shang，嚐chang試shi引yin導dao和he切qie換huan到dao一yi個ge領ling域yu
，你ni自zi然ran會hui有you更geng多duo的de話hua要yao說shuo。

    More generally, if the other people are talking among themselves, and aren't making an effort to include you, you should take the initiative and try to work your way in there. There's no rule that says you politely have to wait for someone to directly address you and ask your opinion on something.

    更(geng)一(yi)般(ban)地(di)，如(ru)果(guo)其(qi)他(ta)人(ren)在(zai)彼(bi)此(ci)說(shuo)話(hua)，卻(que)不(bu)打(da)算(suan)把(ba)你(ni)包(bao)括(kuo)在(zai)內(nei)的(de)時(shi)候(hou)，你(ni)應(ying)該(gai)采(cai)取(qu)主(zhu)動(dong)，努(nu)力(li)把(ba)自(zi)己(ji)放(fang)進(jin)去(qu)。並(bing)沒(mei)有(you)規(gui)定(ding)說(shuo)，你(ni)必(bi)須(xu)禮(li)貌(mao)地(di)等(deng)待(dai)
，直(zhi)到(dao)有(you)人(ren)來(lai)點(dian)你(ni)的(de)名(ming)問(wen)你(ni)對(dui)某(mou)事(shi)的(de)意(yi)見(jian)。

    Sometimes you just can't come up with something to say

    有時，你就是無話可說了

    These tips continue to help me, but at times my mind draws a blank. When you can't think of something to say, it's often due to shyness and inhibition interfering with your ability to think freely, and reducing these feelings is easier said than done.

    這(zhe)些(xie)小(xiao)貼(tie)士(shi)一(yi)直(zhi)在(zai)幫(bang)助(zhu)我(wo)，然(ran)而(er)有(you)時(shi)我(wo)的(de)大(da)腦(nao)仍(reng)舊(jiu)會(hui)一(yi)片(pian)空(kong)白(bai)。當(dang)你(ni)無(wu)話(hua)可(ke)說(shuo)，它(ta)往(wang)往(wang)是(shi)由(you)於(yu)羞(xiu)澀(se)和(he)壓(ya)抑(yi)感(gan)幹(gan)擾(rao)了(le)你(ni)自(zi)由(you)地(di)思(si)考(kao)，而(er)避(bi)免(mian)這(zhe)些(xie)情(qing)感(gan)說(shuo)起(qi)來(lai)容(rong)易(yi)做(zuo)起(qi)來(lai)難(nan)。

    The other usual explanation is when you honestly have nothing to contribute to the conversation （e.g., everyone is talking about old friends they have in common）, and it's not appropriate to try and suddenly change it. But here everyone should at least understand that you can't be expected to be too chatty. Try to say something though when the topic changes.

    其他常見的解釋是：你確確實實拿不出能為談話作出貢獻的東西（例如，大家夥在談論他們所共有的老朋友）,erzheshishituturanchakaihuatiyoushibuheshide。keshizaizhezhongqingkuangxia
，meiyigerenzhishaodoumingbai，bunengqiwangniyoutaiduohuakeshuo。suoyi，yidanhuatibianhua，jiushizheshuoxieshenmeba。

    If you do come off as quiet, do better next time

    如果你被人看成是沉默的人，下次做好些就行

    It's not unusual for someone to be a little tongue-tied around a new group of people. If you do better next time, then people will often forget their first impression of you. They'll realize you aren't a snob after all, or that you aren't meek and boring, and that you're actually a pretty interesting person to have around.

    在zai一yi群qun新xin認ren識shi的de人ren麵mian前qian就jiu好hao像xiang被bei綁bang住zhu了le舌she頭tou，這zhe樣yang的de事shi並bing不bu少shao見jian。如ru果guo你ni下xia次ci做zuo得de更geng好hao些xie，那na麼me人ren們men通tong常chang會hui忘wang記ji對dui你ni的de第di一yi印yin象xiang。他ta們men會hui知zhi道dao你ni不bu是shi勢shi利li小xiao人ren
，也ye不bu是shi索suo然ran無wu味wei之zhi輩bei
，事shi實shi上shang，你ni真zhen的de是shi個ge很hen有you趣qu的de人ren。